My son’s class goes swimming every Monday. He’s somehow afraid of swimming, so he tries his best to always make me see reasons why I shouldn’t put his swimming stuff in his school bag (because he doesn’t get to swim if he forgets to take his swimsuit to school)
Sometimes, he waits till I’m not watching to quietly take out his swimsuit from his school bag. He always gets caught of course and ends up taking his swimsuit to school and swimming that day, which he doesn’t find funny.
One day, I decided he didn’t have to swim if he didn’t want to, so I let him go to school without his swimsuit.
When he got back from school, I asked:
Me: “How was school today?”
Me: “So, did you swim today? You didn’t right?”
Gamal: “I did!! They made me swim with my pant.”
I just couldn’t hold my laughter. He said it in a tone that sounded like he was scolding me for something I did wrong.
So, I checked his school bag and yes, there was a wet underwear inside, apparently, he came back home without any underwear on.
Next Monday arrived and we started the whole drama again in the morning. I stood my grounds and made him understand that he was going to swim that day. I told him that even if he didn’t go to school with his swimsuit, they were going make him swim in his underwear anyway.
He didn’t argue with me when I said that, neither did he try negotiating. I finally released a sigh of relief in the victory.
Right before his breakfast, he said he needed to poo. He went to the bathroom and sat down, he asked me to help him take off his shoes but I said it wasn’t necessary, he should just go about his business with the shoes on.
I left him there for a while and by the time I was back, I saw that he’d already pulled up his trousers and was trying to wear his shoes cos he took them off himself when I left.
I asked him why he pulled up his trousers without calling me to clean him up first and he said I shouldn’t be worried because he never even pooped.
I insisted I wanted to see things for myself just to check and make sure he didn’t go to school all stinky.
At first, he didn’t want to show me but I insisted he pulled down his trousers a bit. Lo and behold, the underwear he wore that morning was no longer on him.
It was all a game plan. He took off his underwear and hid it in the wardrobe, wore his trousers back on and tried wearing back his shoes before I showed up. Besides, if he successfully went to school without his swimsuit and with no underwear, no one could force him to swim naked right?
I couldn’t even get mad at him. I found what he did really amusing and it made me laugh all day long. Honestly, I was really impressed that he came up with such a plan all by himself and executed it very swiftly, all by himself.
I was shocked at how quickly he thought about how to solve his own problem without getting me involved or arguing any further.
Having smart children is a lot of fun but you always have to up your game in order to be at least, a step ahead of them. It’s like a never-ending game of who is smarter, or who is the first to play smart at least. Honestly, as the parent, sometimes you win but there are times you just can’t help but give it to them.
In my opinion, there are few times (not all the time) that even when we know what they are up to, we should purposely let them have that win because that’s how they see it, a win. As long as what they are doing is not morally wrong and it’s not detrimental to anyone including themselves, I think they should be left off the hook once in a while.
Those are times when we get to find out just how smart and intelligent they could be if left to reason on their own. Plus, it boosts their confidence knowing they carried out their own plan successfully.
Life can be really simple when we just let our kids be once in a while, while we sit back and watch in amusement what they can come up with on their own, or what they can create. It’s an easy way of getting to know how they think, what goes on in their heads and just how far they can go.
A simple way out sometimes is to quietly let your kids express their creativity without scolding or reacting badly as long as what they are doing is not bad for them or anyone else. Life is not always that serious.
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