This thing called motherhood is a blessing and every mother deserves to enjoy her motherhood journey. While motherhood is different for everyone, there are things that most mothers share in common. It is kind of different but the same.
For instance, there are certain things that make some mothers experience motherhood differently than some, like financial status, geographical location, health conditions, broken marriages etc
Some mothers seem to glide their way through this motherhood thing while some seem to struggle. No matter how it is or appears to be, no matter the differences and uniqueness of every motherhood, I know for sure that there are things that are universal to every mother.
Some similar features of motherhood or mothers:
- Mothers get unwanted advice/opinion from time to time: This has to be true. I believe it is because I hardly came across any mother who didn’t complain about this. If you haven’t had any of such experience yet, wait for it.
- No mother wants to hear even the sound of our own breath, once the baby is finally asleep: You don’t even want to try to as much as sneeze when she finally gets her baby to sleep. Are you kidding me? All phones on silent, walk like a thief, don’t use any door that squeaks and if you must talk, only whispers allowed. period.
- It’s the end of good sleep for a long time to come: No mother gets enough sleep. They are like superhumans who don’t sleep at night but save the world during the day. They get to sleep only in bits and never really get the tiredness out completely. From nursing to preparing for school to preparing to leave for work for those who work outside their homes, not to mention all the other stuff that need getting done. Bye, sleep!
- The worry never goes away: They worry about every and anything. Is…? Does…? What if…? How…? Do…? When…? Where…? Who…? Why…? It never stops.
- Mothers experience guilt quite often: It’s my fault. I caused it. Maybe I’m not a good Mother. My child thinks I’m mean. I shouldn’t have. Guilt, guilt, more guilt.
- They care more than anyone: A mother could say; “You can go ahead and cry, I don’t care.” or “Why are you telling me, is it my business?”. It’s a lie. It’s her business. In fact, it’s her business more than it’s the owner of the business’s business.
- Mothers appreciate their mothers more than ever: No need for long stories or explanations, now you know.
- They will give their life for their child if necessary: Anything happening to their kids? All fear and normal reasoning disappear. Superhero cape in full use.
- DON’T threaten their kids: I don’t need to say much here. Just try it. You are on your own.
That being said, even though the feeling is mutual, every mother still experiences her journey differently.
Here are some reasons why;
- All children are different: Mine is different, yours is different, every other child is different and unique. Because of this, every mother tries to find her own ways to best parent each child.
- All homes are different: My home is different from yours and every other person’s. Our houses are different. The setting, the location, the furnishing and the way it is run. So, some kids might not have what some have and some mothers might not have what some have too.
- Every parent is different: Every human being is different. You are different from the other mom and she is different too.
- Family traditions: We were all raised differently and are used to different traditions which we are likely to instill in our own kids.
- Faith: People are of different faiths and most mothers try to parent their children in line with their faith.
- Goals and dreams: What people want out of life differ and what every parent dreams and hopes for her child may differ from the other.
- Love languages: Every mother has her own ways of expressing love to each child and every child may receive love differently. Just because the other mother is not doing it your way doesn’t mean she doesn’t love her child.
These differences don’t mean that one is right and the other is wrong, or that one is good and the other is bad. They don’t make one mother good and the other person a bad mother. It only means that every mother gets to enjoy her uniqueness and tries to use who she is, what she has and everything she believes in to be the best mom she could possibly be.
Therefore, dear moms, no comparison, no hate, no disrespect or shade. Every mom is different in her own way even though we go through the same things. Every child is unique and every motherhood story has its own peculiarity. Let’s support each other and help each other raise these kids to be the change that the world needs.
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