Today’s post is all about me looking for answers from you guys. Lately, I’ve been coming across this very popular statement of “If you want your peace, don’t go through his phone.” Some say it like this: “Why are you even going through his phone? Do you want to die young?” I’ve also read and heard statements like “What you don’t know won’t kill you. It’s better you don’t even know what’s going on in his phone.”
What’s actually the simpler way?
Since I’m all about simple living, finding simpler ways to live and enjoy life to the fullest and being happy, I want us to break down this topic together and come up with what’s actually the option that’ll make a relationship a lot simpler.
I think the intentions of people making such statements is to help the person they are talking to have peace of mind and basically live a less complicated life. So, I’m assuming when a family member or friend tells you not to go snooping into your partner’s phone, they are only trying to help you protect your happiness and peace of mind.
So, I just want to know if it’s actually a lot simpler not finding out the secrets your partner is hiding (if any). Does it really give peace? Does it really protect one’s happiness?
Okay, let’s look at it this way. When you don’t suspect anything and your instincts don’t flash any red flags, and you don’t snoop, then yes, you might not find anything to spoil your mood (if any) because you don’t even know that something’s not right, right? But what if you suspect and see a few signs every once in a while, but still decide not to cross-check, will you have peace of mind, or will you keep wondering what it might be?
‘She created her own problem by herself.’
I recently read an article on a blog I stumbled upon about women and marriage. The post was a question the blogger posted on behalf of an anonymous woman seeking advice and answers.
The anonymous woman found chats and naked pictures on her husband’s phone, shared between him and another woman. She asked the readers what she should do or how she should handle that issue.
Lots of readers gave their opinion, do this, do that, but a few people asked her why she went through his phone in the first place and a particular woman blamed her, saying that she created her own problem by herself just by going through his phone.
Does ignoring or not finding out a problem make the problem go away or does it make it alright? Does not wanting to know if there’s a secret make the secret okay to keep?
Look at this scenario:
A woman suspects her husband or boyfriend has secrets but is advised not to find out. In fact, she shouldn’t even be interested. She should forget about it and act like she doesn’t care. As long as her boyfriend or husband treats her with respect, provides her needs and gives her what she wants, then any other thing doesn’t matter.
I have heard a friend’s mother telling her not to bother about whether or not her husband sees other women outside of their home as long as she is the ‘main woman’ in the house. That as long as no one comes to take her place or competes for territory with her, then she’s all good and anything he does outside of the home shouldn’t be her business and it shouldn’t bother her.
Does it really work? Does it really give her peace of mind?
Should people know or not?
In a relationship or marriage, are both parties entitled to their own secrets? Should there be secrets? Should people bother about secrets and should they try to find out what it is or should they not bother and simply not want to know?
I would like to know how you would go about this if it were you. Please leave your reply in the comment box below.